The grief of losing someone can be like a black hole. You may find yourself circling it, coping with it during the waking hours. But as day fades into night, you will find yourself being pulled closer and closer to confronting the grief just as light is drawn to a black hole.
Sometimes, the loss and grief it left are too great and you cannot keep it at bay; that is OK. Grieving is a process that takes time to work through and you cannot expect, nor do you want to, forgo that grief because that will minimize who that person was to you. But, as time helps you work through the process, you will find yourself coming out the other side and just as Sci-Fi has taught us, there is a whole new world on the other side of a black hole.
What this new world is like without the one you lost, in a large part, will be up to you and how you process the grief. You will never get over the loss but you will develop ways of living with it.
Working through the grief will have changed you and that change is a reminder of how deeply you loved! You will experience this new world differently than before because, to quote Heraclitus, “No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it Is not the same river and he is not the same man.”
Through it all, be sure to be kind to yourself; the world is harsh enough.
-Shay
Be the one who cares because there is no guarantee that anyone else will.
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There are far too many who try to escape or smother the grief with drugs or alcohol. In the end they’ve only just corrupted their soul with that grief by pushing it inwards rather give it a path out to be absorbed by many other caring souls and nature.